Diary of an ex-Muslimah

As an ex-Muslim myself, I love to read articles from fellow ex-Muslims. One of the main reasons that I maintain this blog is to provide those within the Muslim faith (particularly women) with some food for thought. Personally, I can understand why a male would follow a misogynistic faith, but there is no possible excuse for a woman to do the same.

So, to cut to the chase, check out this blog from a fellow ex-Muslim. Its quite well written and very original.

Dairy of an ex-Muslimah

Islam and Women, Revised

For the majority of my life I was a Muslim, a child of Muslim parents, a nephew of Muslim aunts and uncles, and so on. Most of the people I spent my childhood were Muslims, and every single one of them repeated a phrase almost verbatim. “Islam is the only religion that gives respect and honor to women.” I personally never really gave the statement much thought, rather, I just accepted it on surface value. So whenever someone from the outside brought up the treatment of women in Islamic cultures, I repeated this mantra like a statement of unquestionable fact. It was not until I looked upon Islam from the outside that I truly grasped just how false that statement was. Islam does not give respect to women, it does the exact opposite. It suppresses and subjugates them. It keeps them down purposely, as Islam truly is a man-made religion. It deprives women of their beauty with veils, their minds with dogma, and their freedom with the law.

One of the most common replies to the oppressive treatment of women is, “it’s the culture, not religion.” The people who say this, either know nothing of the religion they are speaking of, or are purposely lying. It must be one or the other, there is no middle ground in this matter. The Qur’an clearly outlines what rights women have, and which rights they don’t. In fact, the 4th chapter of the Qur’an deals directly with women, as it is titled “Al-Nisa” which translates to “The Woman.” If there were ever a place to prove my point, it would be this chapter of the Qur’an. So, let us explore the claim of whether or not Islam gives respect to women by reading this chapter.

4:3 And if ye fear that ye will not deal fairly by the orphans, marry of the women, who seem good to you, two or three or four; and if ye fear that ye cannot do justice (to so many) then one (only) or (the captives) that your right hands possess. Thus it is more likely that ye will not do injustice.

This verse is often seen as part of the justification as to why men are given the right to marry multiple women. The first claim it makes is that, it is possible for a man to treat multiple women equally. All one needs to evaluate the validity of this claim is to ask any self-respecting woman if such is possible. The next interesting aspect is that, it allows men to marry multiple women, but not women to marry multiple men. Clearly, this verse implies that there is an inherent inequality, as it assumes that only men are in the position to provide for multiple women, but not the other way around.

4:11 Allah chargeth you concerning (the provision for) your children: to the male the equivalent of the portion of two females, and if there be women more than two, then theirs is two-thirds of the inheritance, and if there be one (only) then the half.

Unlike the previous verse that only implies an inherent inequality, this chapter essentially states this supposed inequality outright. Men are given double of what women are given. Again, the Qur’an is creates the justification for inequality and suppression.

4:34 Men are in charge of women, because Allah hath made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So good women are the obedient, guarding in secret that which Allah hath guarded. As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and banish them to beds apart, and scourge them. Then if they obey you, seek not a way against them. Lo! Allah is ever High, Exalted, Great.

Here is a cluster of sexist nonsense. Now, it clearly says, “men are in charge of women.” Why is this so? Why can’t women be in charge of men? How has god made males better than females? According to any sensible knowledge of modern anatomy, there are negligible differences between the two, so how is a male “made to excel over the female” ? Why is a good woman obedient to god and men? Why can’t a woman be simply obedient to god? Why aren’t good males obedient to god and females? If you had any objection to the other verses, surely there cannot be any mistake here. This passage also states the proper punishment for the women who aren’t obedient. First a male can essentially yell at them, second, send them to another bed and then third you can beat them and not allow them outside the house. This single passage allows men to be in charge of women, forces women to be obedient or else face harsh consequences. It ends off with a praise of god, surely no person of reasonable, or even mediocre ethics could not praise any god which would give such filthy and disgusting passages to be the final revelation.

24:31 And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornment only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils over their bosoms, and not to reveal their adornment save to their own husbands or fathers or husbands’ fathers, or their sons or their husbands’ sons, or their brothers or their brothers’ sons or sisters’ sons, or their women, or their slaves, or male attendants who lack vigour, or children who know naught of women’s nakedness.

One of my main grievances with Islam and the Qur’an is that it states that modesty is a virtue for women in relation to god and men, but modesty is only a virtue for men in relation to god. This passage highlights this grievance of mine. I simply cannot understand the desire to force a woman to wear veils. I also do not see why a woman must lower her gaze, especially in direct submission to men. Surely this passage is convenient for males, as they can continue with their sick desire to subjugate women. However, as a male, I could not participate in any religion which states such blatant falsehoods and obvious sexist non-sense regardless of their convenience to me.

What I hope to have established is that, a person cannot consider themselves a feminist if they protect or even worse, follow Islam. The presupposition that men are inherently superior to women (which clearly exists within the passages of the Qur’an) is the antithesis to feminism. For those who are women and also follow the Islamic faith, my question is, why? Why follow a religion which so obviously against you. It is not the culture that allows for males to assume they can suppress you, but rather, it is the religion itself. For one to consider themselves a Muslim, they must follow every single aspect of the Qur’an, if even a single passage seems wrong, the entire faith falls down. One cannot submit to the word of god and at the same time challenge it. I stand baffled whenever a woman actually allows herself to be suppressed, and even more so, agrees with the logic behind it. For a woman following these filthy Abrahamic religions is similar to a freed slave staying with their owner. To put it as succinctly as possible, the notion of “Islamic Feminism” is essentially a contradiction in terms.

The Koran! well, come put me to the test–
Lovely old book in hideous error drest–
Believe me, I can quote the Koran too,
The unbeliever knows his Koran best.

- Omar Khayyám

(this is an updated, and revised version of my earlier “Islam and Woman essay. This one is specifically created for, and revised for publication in a feminist magazine at Stony Brook University)

Muslim TV Network Owner Beheads Wife

NEW YORK A prominent Buffalo area businessman who founded the BridgesTV network to improve the image of Muslims in the U.S. has been arrested and charged with murdering his estranged wife – by beheading her at his company’s office in Orchard Park, N.Y., on Thursday.

Police have charged the husband, Muzzammil Hassan, 44, with second-degree murder in the death of Aasiya Z. Hassan, 37.

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How hard is it to resist the urge to behead your wife? I mean, really, what could have she really done to deserve that? Ah, these Muslim folk just make it to easy…

Why I Can’t Believe

The question “Why Don’t You Believe?” is often posed to me by most religious people whenever I discuss my rejection of god and religion. They bring up the same tired arguments each time, not realizing that I have (and others) answered them countless times before. But, after battling this question so many times, I have come to the realization that “Why Don’t You Believe” is not the proper question. The better question is, “Why Can’t You Believe?” Now this is a question that deserves more than just a laugh, but an entire article.

First, I would like to state my goal clearly and what exactly I am arguing against. If you read this blog at all, you will know that when I refer to god, I specifically mean the Abarahamic god. It is this god that I rejected, and so that is what I will argue against. I am also not attempting to argue against the existence of god, but rather I am arguing for the improbability of a Abrahamic god. My purpose here is give why I believe an intellectual person cannot be a theist, and more specifically, one who follows an Abrahamic god.

The Scientific Incompatibility

The Scientific Incompatibility is the main reason why I could never again believe in a theistic god. Biology has advanced to the point where, Evolution by natural selection is a fact of the history of the Earth just like the American Revolution. Its quite obvious that Evolution or something awfully similar took place, and is currently taking place as we speak (perhaps at a faster rate than ever before). The fossil record is very good evidence, but the Human Genome Project is overwhelmingly indicates some sort of common ancestry between species. We know that humans, like every other living species, evolved from common ancestors (either one or multiple), that the process was slow and gradual and given the amount of time, the improbable became possible. However, Evolution by natural selection only gets rid of a literal reading of the “holy” books. By Biblical literalist, I mean anyone who honestly believes that the Earth is less than 10,000 years old or that the world was created in 7 days (technically 6, as god rested on the 7th). So what about the more common, though also wrong, metaphorical reading?

The problem with the metaphorical is slightly different, and I believe it to be an even worse position. The first issue arises when one considers, which parts are metaphorical and which aren’t? There aren’t any doctrine based or well founded theological reasons to label one passage metaphorical and the next literal. People pick and choose which part they like based on modern sensitivity and common sense, but they do it on very tenuous grounds. The second issue is, if evolution is indeed true there are many complications that arise. Such as, 99.8% of the species that ever existed are already extinct, why such brutal wastefulness? Couldn’t god just cut to the chase and just start humans from the beginning? Why even create the dinosaurs if they were just going to be extinct a few million years later? Why create humans with organs that have no function (appendix)? Why watch the species that are the ancestors to humans die slow painful deaths for hundreds of thousands of years? Why wait 4 billion years to even consider sending down messages to illiterate, delusional fools in the Middle East? I challenge my religious readers who believe in a metaphorical reading of their Holy Book to think of answers for these questions, and when they can’t, think why you can’t, for it is part of the reason I can’t believe.

Those are, of course are just some of the issues with regards to biology and evolution, but there are many more associated with the other sciences. For when someone accepts some sort of theism, you are essentially rejecting the rest of modern science as well. Why create planets that cannot and will most likely never be suitable for life? Why create physical constants that if shifted ever so slightly can cause the only planet suitable for life to go extinct within seconds? That seems like an ever so cruel way to create the universe. Most good engineers often design products and structures with some flexibility… why couldn’t god do the same? Why create a planet that large portions of it aren’t even able to be lived on naturally, limiting humans even further (the so called prized possessions of god). Why create moons for planets that don’t allow for life? Why create a galaxy that’s heading in our direction and will cause our extinction if it doesn’t happen prior to it? So it seems to any reasonable  and rational person that it is not god which created the universe and life, but rather humans which created god. Again, these are just a few unanswerable questions that religious folk must face, yet don’t (and so they remain religious).

Praying

If there were ever a “eureka” moment with regards to my change from a Muslim to an Atheist it was while I was in prayer. As a Muslim it is considered mandatory after the age of 16 that a male begin reading the daily five prayers. These prayers consist of constantly reminding god how good, merciful and awesome in general he is. Technically, at the end, you get the chance to ask for something you want, so it is not entirely about god. To me, this kind of activity is fit for a slave or a serf. Anyone who would willingly restrict their schedule by adding these five daily annoyances simply is a servile fool. The desire to be a slave is something unique about religion. It compels otherwise reasonable people to be a slave. With 1.4 billion Muslims, I don’t see how these people actually think “Allah” cares about each and every one of their insignificant wishes. Also, why does god need praise five times a day? Is god a bit hard on hearing and the repetition allows him to know for sure which ones are his followers? I will go one step further, god is deaf. For there is surely no god listening to the prayers of the faithful, yet servile flock.

The above paragraph is of course is targeted largely at Islam but the same is true about the other religions and their prayer schedules. The Jews pick Friday and Christians pick the day of Sunday (god has a three day weekend apparently) to get together and pray. I could think of many constructive things to do on a Sunday, and none of them involve getting down on my knees at a Church, Synagogue or Mosque. Also, I am skeptical of any god which requires its followers to constantly repeat some sort of chant of praise. The desire to be praised is something some humans get over, and yet this god has not been able to do it…pathetic.

The Number of Different Religions

Most religions make incompatible claims with each other. They don’t say, you can be a part Muslim and part Christian, or sometimes believe in Jesus and sometimes believe in Odin. Rather, they say, you must believe (fill in dogma or nonsense) and that’s final. This means, your concepts of morality and the cosmos are being controlled merely by the accident of your birthplace. If I were born to Christian parents, I might be a Christian, but why does that mean Jesus is more likely than Odin? The same question can be posed to every religious person. What is so special about their religion, and their place of birth that ONLY it gets to decide which is truth and which are lies. Another reason why this is interesting is because I have noted that Muslims argue against Christianity with usually the same reasons that I argue against both. What I don’t understand is why they don’t apply this same thinking to their religions, why do they think their religion is any different just because it was the religion of their parents or community. When they understand fully why they reject other gods, they will understand why I reject theirs.

With regards to reality, it doesn’t work like this “geographical belief set” that religions have put forth. Either evolution is true or it isn’t, and it makes no difference if you’re in Canada or India. The same should be true about a creator, either it exists or it does not, there really is little middle ground on this matter. So if one of these gods actually does exist, surely it is not something that changes due to your lattitude and longitude.

Justice (or lack there of)

Every second, someone in the world is committing a crime. Every few seconds a child dies of starvation.  Murderers walk free, and mass murderers are praised and elected as leaders of nations. The poor continue to suffer and are never able to create a better life for themselves, yet the rich dominate the world and spend more in a day than most make in a year (or even a decade). The gap between the rich and poor only grows, and the pain of poverty remains strong. We have rigged elections and criminals roaming the streets, ready to rape, murder and steal at any moment. Natural disasters kill innocent people, and wars kill even more. What kind of cruel creator would allow such injustice? Surely not a just or loving one.

Suppression of Women

The religions of Judaism, Christianity and Islam are truly man-made. Not just in the sense that it was humans that created them, but men in specific. In Judaism, one needs to only read the Torah to see the hatred of women, as the inferior sex. For Eve is born out a “bent rib” from Adam.  She is created for the benefit and pleasure of Adam. It is she, who is more likely to be tempted and thus Satan targets her first. All of that bigotry without even leaving the book of Genesis. Leviticus also highlights the difference between male and female, for a woman who gives birth to a girl is twice as dirty as a woman who gives birth to a boy. With Christianity, why can’t Christ be born through the normal processes that a woman goes through? Why is the birth canal a one way road? Islam has an even more intense hatred of women. Women can’t even look a man in the eye who isn’t part of their family. A woman must be covered head to toe, and veiling her beauty because it can cause “temptation.” Oddly enough these religions think they are giving respect to women, when all they do is lay the groundwork for sexism and the hatred of women.

Faith

I define faith as, “belief without material evidence.” That is a concept that I will never, and never can agree with. How can one believe in anything without evidence? Why believe in the first place, why not just take a “neutral” or “undecided” stance instead? Some would counter with Pascal’s Wager, but how would one know which god to pray to? Personally, I believe in ideas or concepts, not because I would like for them to be true, or because they are comforting, but because there is good evidence to support them. If the evidence is pending or just not very good, then one should just accept that more research needs to be done and leave it at that. The rejection of faith is the fundamental core position of any free thinker, and thus it is the basis of my atheism.

Religious Official Arrested

Don’t worry Catholics, its not you (well at least this time). Prior to becoming an Atheist, I use to attend my local mosque often. I used to enjoy the community aspect of being a Muslim. But even then as a Muslim, I found myself at odds with many of the religious officials. I distinctly remember the officials constantly asking for donations, ranting for hours on end about poor funding (while the funding was higher there than most local churches).  Now, one of those ranting religious officials has been arrested on a count of sexual abuse of a 13 year old boy. Many know of the Catholic priest’s sexual abuse scandals throughout the world, but how many know of the same scandals within the Islamic faith? Most major media organizations don’t really report on the cases involving Muslims (probably out of fear), but you can usually find a local station to cover it when it happens within ones community.

Suffolk County police have arrested a 53-year-old man in connection with the sexual abuse of a teenage boy in Long Island.

Niamatullah Ibrahim, of Selden, was charged with sexual abuse in the first degree and aggravated sexual abuse in the third-degree after a month-long police investigation led to his arrest on Tuesday.Ibrahim works in the Selden Mosque of the Islamic Association of Long Island as a religious official. The 13-year-old boy he is accused of assaulting was attending some type of religious instruction at the mosque over a period of time, police said.

Source: WNBC

This is of course just one recent case of such blatant child abuse, and it wouldn’t be much of a stretch to suspect that similar activity goes on at this mosque, and other Mosques, Churches, and Synagogues around the world.